May 17. Darren Billings. Darren is the senior pastor of Oasis Ministries, a group dedicated to “loving and lifting the hurting of our world.” Oasis, which began as a small group in 2011, now serves people in three cities and four areas in Oregon.
The ministry’s website declares, “We have two vital mandates we follow at the Oasis…
1. Love God fiercely
2. Love one another fiercely
You will not hear a political message wrapped in spiritual garb at the Oasis…” Here’s Darren’s story.
If you ever feel abandoned, remember God will never leave you.
Darren tried to be a good man—a good husband, a good father, a good employee, a good example. But he failed at all that and more. Eventually, he lost everything.
Misdiagnosed in 2001 with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), a doctor prescribed Ritalin. But for Darren, the drug acted like gasoline on a fire and fueled the real problem.
Later diagnosed bipolar, Darren struggled to control his mood swings between periods of extraordinary productivity and creativity and the seemingly never-ending nightmare of depression filled with feeling worthless. Memories flooded the present. He remembered growing up homeless, living on the streets of Los Angeles with his mother.
Darren needed help to avoid the pit of despair. He went through treatment-facility programs, friends intervened, and his mentor visited to encourage him.
He recalls asking his mentor if he would die for Jesus.
The mentor said, “I’d die for you.”
Darren knew he needed to take care of himself, but he couldn’t understand why that meant he needed medication.
“I couldn’t hear them.” The noise around him garbled the truth. He wanted to do what he knew he should do, but he seemed unable to do what others said was necessary. “I didn’t take my meds, and I wasn’t truthful with my doctor.” Confusion continued to wrap his mind in darkness.
Living on his own again, Darren spent his time and energy doing whatever he could think of to provide for his family, but he didn’t take care of himself. He loved others, but he didn’t value his own life.
He returned to snorting cocaine. He worked harder than most employees, but his accomplishments didn’t seem to be enough. Darren wanted to make a difference, but he didn’t know how. “I drifted away from reality—from everything and everyone familiar.”
Time fled, months passed. His wife Lisa told him no more. She took their children and left.
“I lost everything,” he said. “I had nothing. No wife, no family, no job, no future. I knew the truth that God loved the world, but I didn’t believe he loved me.”
He also lost what little self-respect he’d clutched. He lost everything except one thing—God can’t lie. The fact that God promised he would never fail or forsake or forget Darren made no sense, but Darren clung to God’s promises anyway.
“I didn’t give up on God, but I gave up on myself.” Darren sat in the darkness and sobbed.
His own history warned him of a downward spiral beginning again, and Darren plunged down the rabbit hole into a hopeless world. Darren ran from reality.
Until he heard God whisper: “Are you done yet?”
The voice didn’t condemn him. The gentle words landed softly on Darren’s heart.
“You don’t have to live like this.” And Darren stopped running. He faced the real God.
Today—in the most dangerous parts of Portland, Oregon—Darren hands out socks and love to people no one else wants. He runs a refuge called The Oasis filler, where people who have nowhere else to go come to be refreshed. Darren’s been where they are. He shares what he’s learned—God is wherever we are.
“I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me,” (Psalm 139:7-10, NLT).
Do you ever think that God doesn’t care? If you ever feel abandoned, remember God will never leave you.
“Our Story.” Oasis Ministries Portland. Accessed August 9, 2020.
https://www.oasisministriesportland.com/story
This story is based on an interview with Darren Billings on August 21, 2019.
Story read by Nathan Walker